Friday, December 21, 2012

growing up is optional

two days ago, it was my birthday. and unlike last year, it wasnt terribly awesome. i just went to school and took finals. i didnt feel any different, or even good.

i thought turning eighteen would be magical and sparkly. why? i dont know. i'm a legal adult now, but i dont feel like it. in all of my birthdays leading up to this one, i've felt anxious for the day i turn another year older, and then relieved when it finally came. and then a week later, the impatient foot-tapping would begin again. i felt like i was older than my age. not like i was more mature, just older. when people would ask me my age, i'd roll my eyes and answer with a tired sigh.

but this birthday is much, much different. i feel like time suddenly sprinted past me and only turned back for one second, yelling over it's shoulder, 'oh by the way, you're eighteen.' i feel unprepared and almost unworthy to be eighteen. it still feels weird saying it, even typing it like this. sometimes i forget. then i remember and then get confused thinking maybe it was a dream. but it ain't.

i have a lot to do. a lot of decisions to make, a lot of things to fix about myself and a lot of other things to figure out. i'm more stressed than i have ever been in my life, and you can tell. i have more acne right now than ever. seriously. it's terrible, and stresses me out even more. acne is a butt. and i'd like to kick it.

i found this somehow a few nights ago, and i really liked it. it's kind of what i needed to hear at the time. syd, this is what i was mentioning last night.

Growing old is mandatory. 
Growing up...optional.


The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know . I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.

She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel.

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester, we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.

Frustrated and a little embarrassed, she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry. I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."

As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began: "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!"

"There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything, I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability."

"The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year's end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation, Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

1 comment:

  1. WOW. I fell in love with this.

    And Happy Birthday. =)

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